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The Beauty of A New Bra

posted on: August 12, 2015

In this crazy adventure as a mother of two, so many odd and beautiful things have happened to this body of mine. After I had River, my firm and perky A cup filled to extreme measures in an effort to nurse my tiny girl. My body took on true woman form. The largest shock to my system was in fact, the size of my breasts.

 Prior to her late arrival, I had experienced my fair share of bra-less days. To speak candidly, if it weren't for nipples and my lack of knowledge for the power of a pastieI'm sure bra-less days would have been of a regular occurence. After becoming a mother for the first time, I invested what I could in two of the best darn nursing bras money could buy. The occasion was rather momentous. A trip to Macy's, a fitting by a sweet and old school New Yorker, and what I deemed enough to carry me through my nursing days.

I failed to think about what could and would happen to my upper body after our nursing relationship came to a close. Just like I had failed to think of what nursing would do to my body in the first place. Like most mothers, with saying goodbye to nursing, came the arrival of a whole new set of breasts. A  perky, but barely filling a A cup pair swiftly arrived.

Despite their state, I continued wearing my pre-mom bras. Victoria Secret lace hand-me-downs, lovingly given to me by my aunt years ago. The bras worked. They weren't ideal, but they did the job. Lifted and protected, you get the idea.

When I got pregnant the second time, and again the third time, my breast did something weird. They took shape, filling up into their feeding ways quite easily. But once it was time for them to go back- they didn't. Not even a little. They're now much smaller than an A, and not even close to being perky, and really are pretty non-existent these days. Most days, a bra just seems silly and useless. Often, I am merely wearing one just to conform to a Brooklyn mother's norm. No nips please!

Unlike my friends, who look at their smaller chests with distain, I am quite fond of it's happenings. I know of the tireless work these girls have put in over the past 4 years. In addition, I don't need or want more. In an attempt to style my post-partum body, I was faced with the same issue over and over again; feeling top heavy, with a bigger butt. It was new and difficult. Now with a smaller top, getting dressed just feels so much more enjoyable.
Out of everything I've done since ending my nursing relationship with Oak, purchasing a bra has been  the thing I've failed to do. That is, until last week. On a warm and windy day, I moseyed into Urban Outfitters after a few meetings and took on the challenge of purchasing a new bra. Turns out, finding the perfect one isn't incredibly hard. It is incredibly satisfying. I ended up purchasing a few, but this soft lace one that hugs my body just right, is my favorite.

Here are a few that I'm loving
Lady Bra
Double Layer 
Bella Coachella Seamless
Lace Triangle
Also, my shorts are vintage cut-offs. Similar here. 

I would love to hear about your favorite bra! Really. ;)


Photography by Peter Staubs

15 comments:

  1. I looooove my post nursing boob's. I'm still nursing my 3rd who is 15 months and I can't wait again for the braless days. When I do wear a bra I just get a very comfortable gap body bra. I don't care about cleavage, I had plenty of that while nursing and have had enough. In fact, I can't wait to go running without a bra. Just call me a bra burner because I can't stand the overpriced little piece of cloth probably designed by a man.

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    1. Girl, I've never tried running without a bra. Don't give me any ideas. ;)

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  2. I enjoyed reading your thoughts on post-partum body changes. I'm looking forward to bra shopping once my little munchkin is off my teetees but I'm worried that it will be a challenge as one breast is two cups bigger than the other. Did you experience such a thing?

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    1. Hi Rebkahi!

      I've personally never experienced that, but a good friend did. It was mostly due to her babe nursing on one side more than the other. Milk flow and all. Once she stopped, they both got smaller to the same size. But the weaning part was hard, because that initial hardness of the breast as you don't nurse, makes the size difference more obvious. Just wear sports bra and relax for a week with larger shirts.
      x

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  3. I also have different size breast due to nursing. While it was very pronounced while nursing it has become not so noticeable now. I

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    1. Hey Patricia!
      So you've stopped nursing? Did they kind of go back to the same size? xx

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  4. I had a breast reduction in September 2014. I went from an F cup to a C cup. While not the largest bust size, they were almost solid tissue and very heavy. Despite an 8kg weight loss, they stayed the same. I'd also endured years of neck and shoulder pain (which ended the moment I stood up from my hospital bed). The reduction was the best thing I could have done. It not only improved my physical health but it also improved my body image. I am 5' 10" with an athletic build and interestingly, I feel more feminine with smaller breasts. As for bras? Well, I am just only now looking for some nice new lingerie but am limited to wire-free (hard to find here in New Zealand). I was in surgical bras for the first 4 - 5 months and then plain wire-free bras as I was still tender. So, with Summer coming I'll definitely start the search for something pretty!

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    1. Hi Jody!
      Wow! I've had a friend get a reduction, and the larger cup size was really tough on her body too. She was also kind of small though, and teeny. She said she felt a whole new change mentally after she was all healed. Wishing you good luck on your healing journey, and congrats on the reduction!

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  5. I love these pictures so much. They are gorgeous. You look beautiful and so stylish. x

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  6. Thanks for sharing. Many of my friends have had children and nursed and no one warned me about post nursing breasts. Initially I was surprised by the change and a little sad to go from an A to an A minus (I nursed for two years) I'm okay with my body now and I'm glad I was able to nourish my daughter. I'm glad you love and embrace your postpartum body. It's important for us to be good to our bodies and to love it as it goes through its changes.

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    1. Hi Monique!
      I do think it's a topic not often discussed. Mostly because it is so personal, and it makes you really vulnerable showing and talking about your body changes. I hope this helps to open up the door to get more conversations like these going.

      x

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  7. Latonya these photos of you are so beautiful! I love love loooooove how much you embrace your postpartum body! It reminds me of A Beautiful Body Project (abeautifulbodyproject.org)...so many beautiful mamas! Thank you so much for sharing this! I had to wean my little guy early, which was disappointing but if I've learned anything in becoming a mama it's to know that you can hope but to always be willing to let go of expectations and embrace whatever comes. I've been wanting to get a few new bras that really make me feel good and you've totally inspired me to go out and get them and embrace my new mama body in a new way! Thank you so much! xx

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  8. LaTonya this is a wonderful and intimate post. I had a similar journey to yours. You asked for recommendations -- just recently on a visit to The Netherlands I discovered a wonderful intimates range called Love Stories. Soft, supportive and sexy. www.lovestoriesintimates.com

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  9. Beautiful post, pictures and perspective. It's so refreshing and inspiring to read about a mother who embraces her post nursing breasts. I'm about to wean my second son, and there's no doubt that my already small breasts will further deflate. Unlike with my first, I refuse to let this get to me. I will embrace my new body, like you do. Finding this blog has done me good. Thanks Latonya.

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